So to begin with, I'm not sure where this post is going in its entirety, but Ive decided that it is important for parents that blog to be as honest as they can be, because there's a lot of impressionable young people out there that may be thinking about having children, regardless of age. I say this, because a friend of mine came to me the other day and asked me if being a Mom was as easy as I make it look, and if she was crazy for thinking about having a baby at 21.
She asked me questions about School, Work, Doctors, Labour, Pregnancy and the ride I've had up until now. And even though I'm flattered that I make parenting look easy to my friends, it's important that they know that Sometimes Parenting is Hard.
There have been many days where I've felt like I'm not doing a good enough job taking care of my son. Where he'll be crying from teething and I'll feel like I'm not doing enough to ease the pain, or he'll be out of milk at 3am, and I'll feel bad for forgetting to pick some up. Or he'll trip and fall, and I'll blame myself for not watching him close enough. Or he goes through a growth spurt and falls asleep before dinner, and I'll beat myself up for not having it ready soon enough. Even diaper rashes that I can't get rid of no matter what I use or try.
A lot of photos that get posted to Facebook or Instagram, people showing their kids in cute clothes, or showing milestones they make, cute pictures they painted, the cute Princess or Racecar beds they buy, or all the fun adventures they go on, that's not the whole side of parenting. That's just the side parents want others to see, instead of all the hard stuff.
My Brother in Law said to me that he believed being a Parent was the easiest thing in the world. "What makes you think that?" I asked him. He told me that, 6 years ago in his High School Ed class, he passed with an A, and he remembered learning that when babies cry they either need changing, feeding or a nap. And that they learn to eat within weeks, they sleep through growth spurts, and they sleep the minute they're put in their cribs. I laughed so hard. He couldn't be more wrong. He knew nothing of complications, or Colic, or teething. How fussy they get during teething, nor how hard it can be to get them down to sleep. How BLW can be hard, and scary, but natural progression takes too long.
Saying all that, I don't what to discourage anyone who wants a child. If you feel mentally ready, and you're financially ready, then go ahead! Although I found breastfeeding hard, and had complications in labour, having Bean was definitely the best thing I've ever had happen to me.
Parenting can be such a hard and frustrating thing, but definitely the most rewarding thing too!
From our world, to yours,
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